1. EVERY DETAIL YOU’VE SPENT THE LAST 12 MONTHS PLANNING IS MAGICALLY GOING TO FALL INTO PLACE
There is A LOT involved in planning a wedding, or any other event for that matter. Between venues, décor, contracts, timelines, menus, not to mention all of the people involved, well, I could go on and on, but suffice it to say: if you thought this was going to be an easy process you are in for a rude awakening.
With so many details constantly requiring your full attention and changing right up until the last minute (even on your day of), to assume everything is going to magically come together is down right crazy. In reality, hours of prep work is needed to ensure that all of these details actually work the way you’ve envisioned and will run according to plan, or at least as close to your plan as humanly possible.
2. YOU HAVE AN UNLIMITED SUPPLY OF MONEY AND WOULD LOVE TO SPEND AS MUCH OF IT AS POSSIBLE
By now I hope you get that I’m being incredibly sarcastic about not needing a planner, unless you really do have that much disposable income and time, then “Hey new best friend” (kidding). But really, I get it, you have a tight budget for your wedding, almost everyone does. However, your wedding planner will be there to help you manage your budget and even come up with cool, creative ways to cut costs along the way. We have a lot of connections in the industry and are actually there to help you save money!
“But seriously, I really, really, really can’t afford a wedding planner.” We hear you loud and clear. This is why planners offer smaller, less extensive packages such as Month/Day of Wedding Planning to support you in the final weeks of your planning process. I assure you, it is worth the investment!
3. THERE ARE DEFINITELY NOT A MILLION PEOPLE INVOLVED ALL MAKING DIFFERENT DECISIONS FOR YOUR DAY
Yes, YOUR DAY! But as you know throughout this process it sometimes doesn’t feel like that. Your bridesmaid is constantly arguing with you on every décor detail, your family wants a traditional ceremony, your venue is adamant on a set up you despise and on top of that your mother in law just added 20 new people, you’ve never met, to your guest list without telling you. AWESOME. JUST, AWESOME.
Having a wedding planner can actually help you control these situations and get everyone back on track. We are there to support you, the couple, and although we know you want to make everyone happy it can be exhausting. Having a professional on your side, who is an outsider, removed from the emotions and stresses of the planning process can be a lifesaver. Moreover, you’ll have someone to vent to!
4. YOUR VENUE COMES WITH A COORDINATOR
I repeatedly hear: “I don’t need a wedding coordinator, my venue comes with one!” A venue coordinator is NOT a wedding coordinator. Let me say that again, a VENUE coordinator is NOT a WEDDING coordinator.
Don’t get me wrong. I love when venues have a coordinator. It makes things much easier at the venue. However, we have very different roles. Plain and simple, a venue coordinator works for the venue, a wedding coordinator works for you!
If there are multiple weddings taking place at your venue the venue coordinator will be bouncing between all of them, all the while managing the venue, staff, catering and logistics of the venue that day. This just highlights our differences on the day of, never mind the extensive variations of our roles in the months leading up to your event. This topic requires a separate blog post, as there really is so much to say!
5. YOU DON’T NEED SLEEP. EVER.
Planning any large-scale event requires a lot of time and energy that most people just don’t have. Unless you actually do have the time to interview 5 photographers, 6 wedding venues, 3 florists, 2 cake designers, negotiate and review each contract, do I need to go on? Then, to spend the next 12 months being in constant communication with each of them is a full time job. Having a planner can save you an incredible amount of time, stress and money along the way.
6. WEDDINGS ARE A CALM, EASY PROCESS WHERE NOTHING EVER GOES WRONG
I have yet to be a part of a wedding, as a guest or planner, where something didn’t go wrong. Whether the linens didn’t get delivered the morning of, an extra guest showed up on the day, we ran out of ice, or the day got completely rained out. Shit happens all the time!
However, having someone there that not only will do everything in their power to fix the situation in a timely and inconspicuous manner, but also who is fully prepared with a backup plan beforehand, just in case, can make or break your day. Most planners also come prepared with an extensive emergency kit with essentials that may be needed for you and your guests. Talk to any planner; you’d be surprised at the wild stories and unforeseen situations we end up handling.
7. YOU, YOUR VENUE, VENDORS, GUESTS AND WEDDING PARTY ARE MIND READERS AND/OR COMMUNICATE TELEPATHICALLY WITH ONE ANOTHER
Last minute changes happen all the time and when they do, because they will, it will need to be communicated to the right people to ensure a smooth day for everyone. Something as simple as switching a speech from 7:05pm to 7:15pm will need to be communicated with your venue, caterer, DJ, MC, etc. as the entire evening has shifted just a little bit.
Throughout the day there will also be numerous questions from your guests, wedding party, venue and vendors. To have someone there (who is not you because you should be enjoying every friggin moment of your day) to answer those questions and direct people as needed will not only be easier for everyone involved, but also help you relax.
8. YOU, YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY WOULD MUCH RATHER WORK YOUR WEDDING DAY THAN ACTUALLY ENJOY IT TOGETHER/ARE CAPABLE OF BEING IN TWO PLACES AT ONCE
You’ve dreamed of it all your life, waking up extra early the morning of your wedding to set out place cards and favours, while managing all your deliveries and logistics of the day before calling your vendors to relay last minute information. During the day your family can oversee your wedding set up, seat your guests, make sure you’re on schedule and deal with any unforeseen changes in your wedding day plans. Plus after a full day of events you would all love to stay up until 4:00am tearing down the items you brought to your venue. Sounds like a dream, right!? WRONG. Stop the madness and make a new plan. Actually allow yourself, your friends and family to fully enjoy your day!
OR YOUR SISTER/FRIEND/COUSIN/AUNT IS GOING TO PLAN YOUR WEDDING
This should only apply if your sister/friend/cousin/aunt is actually a wedding planner. Mind you if they are they will probably get you to hire someone to take over the day of, at minimum, so they can enjoy your wedding celebration with you.
I’m not saying that your sister/friend/cousin/aunt shouldn’t be involved. That is amazing if they want to help. However, you want to avoid butting heads because you have different visions for your day. Keeping them involved in those small tasks along the way will be a fun bonding experience for all of you. The nitty-gritty details are best suited to your wedding planner.
9. YOU ARE AN INSANE CONTROL FREAK AND COULDN’T IMAGINE GIVING UP CONTROL OF YOUR BIG DAY
YEP, SAME HERE! I totally get it. Type “A” personalities unite!
I am a crazy, detail oriented, coffee fuelled, control freak, and proud of it. It makes me good at my job and allows me to really care about those small, intricate details that most people wouldn’t even notice. So yes, I will spend the time to make sure each and every last detail is exactly where you want it and fully commit to executing your vision. Even if that means I have to stay up all night alphabetizing your place cards to set them up within equal distance between your plate and glassware while of course staying parallel to your napkin. Um, OCD much?
10. YOUR WEDDING IS SMALL AND SIMPLE
First of all congratulations! I don’t know how you pulled that one off because most couples that imagine a small, intimate wedding end up being persuaded into a large celebration pretty quick.
I have recently been a part of a few very simple, small wedding celebrations and I must say they were amazing! However, I do believe that having a planner even at your small ceremony or simple destination getaway (if anything a destination wedding, no matter how small, is way more complicated, but that’s another point) will be extremely beneficial and worth every cent.
Because it is a small get together it makes it easier for your friends and family to help. Your mom will end up keeping everyone on schedule, your sister will be lighting candles and setting out last minute décor and your groomsmen will have to move all of your chairs from your ceremony location back to seat everyone at your intimate dinner afterward. Maybe not exactly those tasks, but you get the idea. Sure, it doesn’t seem like a lot right now, but your small intimate celebration can quickly turn into work for everyone.
I can’t emphasize enough that to have someone there, even for a few hours to take over those details and unexpected happenings will make a huge difference. A planner will provide you and your favourite people the chance to enjoy your wedding celebration together!